Anxiety Guilt is something most people with anxiety tend to feel. It is absolutely nothing to be ashamed of. A lesson that is very difficult for those who feel this in their day-to-day to understand. If you are an anxious person, you probably feel bothersome to those around you. You silence yourself. Your feelings eat at you because you are bottling them all up. However, you take it because you feel like if you did share it, you would feel guilty putting those around you down. You do not want to worry your loved ones. So bottling it up feels like the only option you have. Unfortunately, that option is eating at you though.
So you feel that anxiety guilt and have no idea how to get rid of it…
I completely get it. I have anxiety guilt. Overthinking every single detail. I even overthink the way I walk down the street. Or the way I speak. When in reality, who cares?! Who are these people around you to constantly be trying to impress them at the expense of your feelings? The sad part is people with anxiety usually know this. They know they should not allow their anxiety to eat at them or that it really does not matter what strangers think. But it does not matter if they know that. It still does not change your anxiety and it is something you can not control yourself yet.
Will you ever be able to control your anxiety?
It depends. Are you willing to work on yourself? That’s the question. It will take YEARS to get you where you want to be. To feel normal. It will also take a support system around you that reassures you and loves you. Do not feel rushed to figure it out. There is no time limit. Obviously, the sooner you can figure it out the better. I am sure if you could, you would get rid of your anxiety by tomorrow. However, reality is not so easy. It does take time. It takes consistent effort. This effort will look like bad days, bad weeks, good days, good weeks. You will have weeks where you are consistent, on schedule and feeling good. But you will also have weeks where you do not want to move or staring at the ceiling is the only thing calming you down. You feel guilty for not doing much.
It is time to change your outlook…
Change it. You do not need to feel guilty for doing little. As life goes on, a light will spark in you and you will do it all. It just takes time. You are allowed to have bad days, weeks and months. Your entire journey will never be perfect. You should feel things deeply and learn from each moment. And you do not need to feel guilty about any of those feelings. They make up who you are and have brought you this far in life.
Sometimes I feel like my life is stagnant and nothing is moving forward for me. It feels absolutely hopeless. But then I think about how far I have come, and how hard I have worked. All my successes at such a young age. I remember that I have nothing to be ashamed of feeling stagnant in this moment. Sometimes we fixate on how far we want to go and forget to give yourself recognition for how far you have come.
Get in the habit of giving yourself a pat on the back for how far you have come.
Seriously, life starts to look brighter when you consistently remind yourself of how great you are, how hard you work and how far you have come. Stop focusing on what you need to do all the time. It’s great to have goals, as you should. But in moments of panic, look at the bright side. Remind yourself that you are only in a slump on your journey, it does not define your entire journey. Because when you look back at the whole journey, it always looks pretty great. The moments of weakness, are just moments to learn from and sulk in. It’s so important to feel your feelings. Do what you feel is best for you in the moment and then move on. Life will continue going on. At least, be proud of yourself along the way.