For a huge period of my life I was super negative when things were going even slightly downhill. Being negative can get really overwhelming. There were so many bad things happening to me it was really difficult to even be slightly positive and happy. I really felt like my world was tumbling down and there was no hope. This quickly got tiring. Constantly caring so much about every little thing that happened became too much. I realized I was only hurting myself by caring as much as I did. I began to embark on an attitude change. A couple years ago I decided to be positive.
What is the point of being so upset over all these hard times?
It does not solve anything. Yes, take your time to grieve and let yourself feel your emotions. However, always remind yourself that there is a bright light at the end of the tunnel. It is not always going to be rainbows and butterflies, but after all rainfalls there is a rainbow. After drowning in my own tears, I decided I had enough of being in a constant slump. I was never going to do well in life if I was constantly sitting in rock bottom.
It is okay to hit rock bottom.
Just make sure you are climbing your way out right when you hit the bottom. It is okay to get hurt, and it is okay to be a disaster. What are you going to do after you get to that point though? Are you going to let yourself sit in your mess and stay there? Or are you going to look yourself in the mirror and tell yourself that it is not the end of the world.
At the end of the day, you can sit there pouting and being upset but time is still going to be moving. Time waits for no man. Life keeps moving and so should you. Remind yourself that in a world so big, your problems are so small. That at some point down the road, you are going to laugh looking back at these problems. I know from personal experience that when I look back at certain events that made me question my life, I now laugh. I laugh about how stupid I was to think my life was defined by my problems.
Who really cares?
Have an “I don’t care” personality sometimes. At the end of the day, who really cares? Why should you care? Someone spoke negatively about you? Who cares? Remain calm. They really do not matter. Plus laugh about the fact they had so much time on their hands, they spoke about you. Upset you lost your job? WHO CARES!? There are so many jobs out there and there is somewhere better for you to be. You are not meant to be in one workplace forever anyways. Upgrade your career at this point. Your partner left you? Who really cares? You know how many other people are out there? They clearly were not who you were meant to be with anyways. There is obviously someone out there way better for you. Go live your life and they will come to you.
I find that the most important part of my new outlook on life is that I really do not care as much. Yes, I care about my family, close friends, career, etc. But overall, I know whatever will be, will be. Regardless if I do my best to avoid it or not. Life goes on. Nothing is so important that it requires me to breakdown and be a vegetable in life. It is important to constantly use your pain to get you to that next stage in life.
You may miss out on something great.
When you are sitting there pouting, you may miss out on something great just because you are focusing on something that was once good. Do not settle for mediocre. Look for something exquisite. Find the greatest things in life and cherish them. When they leave your life, that is okay too. Sometimes there are things or people or events in life that are not meant to last forever. They will still have an impact/lesson that will last forever within you. Appreciate that.
Be the best version of yourself.
Constantly be working towards being your best self in life. Do not half ass anything. Constantly be striding to your best. Sometimes your best may not seem good enough and it may not be as good as before. As long as you are trying and are doing the best you can in that moment, that is all that matters. Your best version of yourself is defined by yourself, not by anyone else.
Remember to breathe and smile.
It is absolutely free to continue breathing and smiling through it all.